LGBT Marriage?

Posted: August 2, 2011 in LGBT Issues

Recently this has been going round Facebook and in fact I posted it to my Facebook page.

So let me get this straight…………Kelsey Grammer can end a 15 yr marriage by phone, Larry King can be on divorce #9, Britney Spears had a 55 hour marriage, Jesse James and Tiger Woods, while married, were having sex with EVERYONE, 53% of Americans get divorced and 30-60% cheat on their spouses. Yet, same-sex marriage is going to destroy the institution of marriage? 

It caused some interesting discussion in my family. Those of us with the pain of a failed marriage for a lot of reasons can feel bitter about marriage, but I don’t think marriage in itself is wrong. If two people want to make a life long commitment to each other because the love each other then that is a good thing. If one of them sadly dies then the other gets their stuff. Part of the argument for LGBT marriage is simply the right to the possessions of the person someone has loved for many years.

What the post is not saying, is that marriage is a bad thing. Simply that the right wing evangelicals that hold it as some kind of miracle cure to societies problems have, I fear, made it into a false God. Even I thought it would make me straight, it would cure me. I was told that Homosexuality was sinful and I had to fight it. A fight that resulted in 7 suicide attempts.

My mother and father (miss you dad) were an example of a great marriage and you know I hope that one day I will find someone and be in a strong relationship together with them. But to a lot of people, including me, marriage is a thing of pain.

Just because people flunk university, it doesn’t mean university is a bad thing, the same can be said for driving tests, if someone said to you “I think driving is evil because I couldn’t pass my test” you’d think they were silly and mad.

LGBT marriage, actually, is not a new thing. In fact it was quite legal until the 4th Century AD. There were even Christian same sex union services well documented in the early church. There are good records of Gay saints.

What we want is a formal framework to make a commitment to each other, just like straight people have. A commitment that is life long and binding and provides security of some sort to both parties. Just like straight people.

I understand that a lot of people will say that Marriage is given by God for Man and Woman (Genesis appears to say this), but Genesis does describe the perfect world. We are not in a perfect world, it won’t ever be perfect and we have to do the best we can with what we have.

Neveer ask someone to do something you are not prepared to do. If you want us to stay single, you try it for a while. God takes the lonely and sets them in families the Bible says. Just because our family is different to yours, doesn’t make it wrong.

(Sorry if this post sounds like I’m stamping my feet but in a way I am)


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