Lesbians are from Lebanon (or how to explain to your child about LGBT people).

Posted: October 26, 2011 in LGBT Issues

One of my dear friends told me she was confronted with the question “What is a Lesbian?” by one of her children the other day. I thought I’d help answer that question for a child as I have two girls myself who both had this whole LGBT thing explained to them. These aren’t all the answers but I hope they help.

Explain it from the child’s perspective.

Children don’t need to know everything about everything. (although it does appear they want to know! Why? “Because God Loves the Irish”). If your child is used to seeing hetrosexual relationships, they probably don’t know anything about anything sexual. So why broach the subject. Since our relationships are more about love than sex that’s the perspective to get it from.

Well, Daddy and Mummy Love each other don’t they?

Molly’s mums also love each other in the same way. They are lesbians. John’s Dad’s are gay, they love each other like mummy and daddy love each other.

Don’t make up silly answers to avoid the truth.

There’s no point telling the child something that is silly or not true. It undermines you as a parent. Lesbians aren’t people from Lebanon, Gay’s are not just men who are more happy than other men. Transgender people are not transformers who have gone wrong. Tell the truth. Your relationship with your child must be based on truth and love.

My girls know I’m gay. They understand what that means and engage with it. My oldest loves to point out things that are about gay issues. “Daddy, look at these gay penguins!”. I didn’t in fact sit them down and tell them in some kind of performance, it was just in general conversation. Don’t make a big thing of it.

They will copy you

If you show love and acceptance to LGBT people, you’re children will too. We are not dangerous to your children, we will not “make them gay”. The easiest way for children to accept LGBT people is to see you accepting them as normal. (whatever that is).

God Loves the Irish

If they ask you why and you don’t want to answer, just tell them “because God loves the Irish”.

I hope that helps.

Thanks for the inspiration for this post Claire.

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