The confusing Church of England

Posted: November 20, 2013 in Uncategorized
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Well I can’t fathom what on earth the Church of England are doing.

It seems only 5 minutes ago that Justin Welby our beloved Archbishop was telling us all how terrible Gay Marriage was and that Marriage was reserved for straight people….and now… they are working with Stonewall to target homophobic bullying in schools.

Isn’t that a bit two faced?

I mean you either accept us as we are and understand our need for intimate, loving relationships just like straight people, or are we supposed to spend our whole lives alone? (something that I for one am NOT enjoying), just to keep people happy who are uncomfortable about us. (Well, some people are uncomfortable about dealing with people with psychological or physical challenges).

So here we go with what the Church of England thinks of people like me…


The mind of the Church has been expressed formally on two occasions. First, on 11 November 1987, the General Synod passed by 403 votes to 8 the following motion at the end of the debate initiated by the Revd Tony Higton:

‘That this Synod affirms that the biblical and traditional teaching on chastity and fidelity in personal relationships in a response to, and expression of, God’s love for each one of us, and in particular affirms:

  1. that sexual intercourse is an act of total commitment which belongs properly within a permanent married relationship; (i.e. Gay people must remain single)
  2. that fornication and adultery are sins against this ideal, and are to be met by a call to repentance and the exercise of compassion; (i.e. Gay people in relationships are “fornicating”)
  3. that homosexual genital acts also fall short of this ideal, and are likewise to be met by a call to repentance and the exercise of compassion; (further confirmation)
  4. that all Christians are called to be exemplary in all spheres of morality, including sexual morality; and that holiness of life is particularly required of Christian leaders.’

So if you read the whole thing, frankly it is wholly inappropriate for them to be “targeting homophobic bullying” when their attitude to people like me is simply that we are sub-standard Christians. ESPECIALLY if we are in a relationship.

Luckily I am not in any kind of relationship and I do as I have said before, sometimes struggle with loneliness. What is the church’s council, simple… tough, you have to be lonely because it makes us happy and satisfies our traditions. (Even though actually PRIOR to the church there were LGBT marriages, even some Roman Emperors had same sex marriages).

I love Jesus, I just wish I could be equal to straight believers but I know I will never live up to the standards of the Church of England.

So why don’t I just leave and go to another church? Because my church is my family. All though I’m the rainbow coloured sheep. They are still my family.

I remember when our church had a discussion on Gay marriage, I did not take part, but it was in the chapel and I could hear them talking about me (indirectly). It was tremendously difficult to experience, I did not feel prepared for it because I did not know it was going to happen until that morning. Luckily for me there was someone who noticed I was quite upset and I told them I was gay, she was very kind.

So Stonewall, please realise who you are dealing with.

  1. Deri says:

    It don’t work. You can’t be gay and Xian. And as you can’t stop being gay, the only choice is to stop being Xian. You have seen Xian haters: by their works you will know them. Do you really want to be one of them? Not me.

  2. Paul C says:

    Hi Deri, thanks for your message. Yes I have seen many people who are “haters” but you know I also know far more who are people who love and support LGBT people including my church.

    I can be gay and a christian you know why? Because of Jesus. His grace is sufficient for me.

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