Archive for March, 2016

Well since my last post I thought I’d share some of the responses I’d had and how things have moved on.

Firstly, I was really surprised about how important people at my church actually regard communion and those who take it. A number of people knew my story and said how really happy and touched they were I was joining them. There has been a lot of hugging (which I’m not actually good at).

What is more amazing is actually how I feel in myself. Since joining the rest for communion I noticed that one or two others have started taking communion who would sit out. I didn’t realise, in fact, until someone pointed out that they didn’t take communion because I didn’t that feeling excluded actually can effect those around you. I thought, in honesty that it was where I was at and people in my church were cool with it. Which, to be honest, they were, but that didn’t mean they didn’t deeply want me, as a gay person to be part of the family.

Communion, is, in fact a family affair. I have learned that actually with all the liturgy there is much love, coming together an saying those words, although prescribed for us is actually about our unity, our oneness whatever our sexuality, the colour of our skin, our gender or any other difference you choose to mention.

Something else I also realised is that sometimes people don’t feel included, even when they are. They don’t feel equal even though they are equal. But to experience that equality often only happens when we join in.

I learned that the people at St John’s do regard me as an equal. That in their view I’m not a second class Christian, even if the upper echelons and primates of the church may regard me as one.

This weekend our wonderful vicar Alan is coming to share communion with the LGBT group that meets once every fortnight at the church. I’m sure this will be a powerful and moving time.

We are family, we are communion, paid for by the blood of the risen Christ, and it’s good, it’s very good.


Coming back to communion.

Posted: March 21, 2016 in Uncategorized

For the first time in quite a few years even though I feel like a lesser Christian because I’m gay, I took communion.

I have held back from taking it because I have felt that the Church of England frowns on LGBT people. That we are, by definition second class. The upper echelons such as the Archbishop of Canterbury and the Primates think that we are somehow involved in a “Sodom and Gomorrah” type existence. We are judged before they even know who we are.

I have a number of good friends at my church, I’m open about being gay and we run a lovely LGBTI Christian fellowship. I desperately want to feel as good as other Christians. One of my friends challenged me about my not taking communion. He said that he would not take it either if I didn’t.

At which point, I had an epiphany. Turned out, by not taking communion by saying “I’m not equal”, I was simply backing up the views of those who look down from the ivory towers of heterosexuality and church leadership, I was saying, “Yes, I’m not as good as you”. By him standing with me, he demonstrated that, actually, I was not standing up and saying, you know what, I am equal. Jesus has made a way for all of us, not just those who are heterosexual.

Galatians 3:27-29 For all of you who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free man, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus. And if you belong to Christ, then you are Abraham’s descendants, heirs according to promise.

I’m sure those who believe we are involved in some kind of terrible lifestyle would be shocked to find out that we are actually working out our faith with trembling and fear. If we have no calling to be single (celibacy is a gift!), then the logical opposite is that we should seek someone, who, with us, before God, would form a union that would honour God.

So, I stand, with my brothers and sisters at St John’s, in a place where I have found both friendship and support for “people like me”, and friends, one particular friend who challenged my statement by standing wth me, so I could be free to move to the place where I should be.

In a way, my friend demonstrated Jesus coming to us, when he stood with me and didn’t take communion, was being Christ, who stood with us, coming to our place so that we can eventually get to where we should be in him.

It doesn’t mean it’s easy. It’s just good to have someone to metaphorically hold your hand.



After another session of gay hate by Christians on Facebook I thought I’d just put the record straight on some of the things you Hetro Christians might be thinking about us LGBT people

  1. Sodom and Gomorrah.

    I have never been there, I have no idea what the place looks like, I am NOTHING TO DO with any crimes or anything else that was committed there. The Bible actually says that the people of Sodom were punished NOT for sodomy (well nah!) but for being inhospitable. I’m not even going to look the verse up because you’re so stupid you’ve not read the Bible yourself.

2. I am not living a life of fornication that you have running round your head

Do not assume because you THINK all gay people sleep around we all do. Gay people especially gay Christians tend to be alone. Because people like you make us feel guilty even if we were to look at a guy and think “oh he’s nice” (much in the same way you think about people of the opposite sex).

3. My private life has nothing at all to do with you. I am not interested in your private life, I don’t judge you that you spend time looking at porn or doing a whole load of other things that the Bible warns against. Let God be the judge not you.

4. I go to church, like you, I read the Bible, like you, I pray like you, I pray so hard, I doubt my faith every time you have a go at me, I look up and say why do I bother? Then I remember that despite your judgment, Jesus loves me, and I want to live for him more than anything.

So stop flipping judging me and worry about your own life.

Because in the way you Judge, God will Judge you.