Coming back to communion.

Posted: March 21, 2016 in Uncategorized

For the first time in quite a few years even though I feel like a lesser Christian because I’m gay, I took communion.

I have held back from taking it because I have felt that the Church of England frowns on LGBT people. That we are, by definition second class. The upper echelons such as the Archbishop of Canterbury and the Primates think that we are somehow involved in a “Sodom and Gomorrah” type existence. We are judged before they even know who we are.

I have a number of good friends at my church, I’m open about being gay and we run a lovely LGBTI Christian fellowship. I desperately want to feel as good as other Christians. One of my friends challenged me about my not taking communion. He said that he would not take it either if I didn’t.

At which point, I had an epiphany. Turned out, by not taking communion by saying “I’m not equal”, I was simply backing up the views of those who look down from the ivory towers of heterosexuality and church leadership, I was saying, “Yes, I’m not as good as you”. By him standing with me, he demonstrated that, actually, I was not standing up and saying, you know what, I am equal. Jesus has made a way for all of us, not just those who are heterosexual.

Galatians 3:27-29 For all of you who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free man, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus. And if you belong to Christ, then you are Abraham’s descendants, heirs according to promise.

I’m sure those who believe we are involved in some kind of terrible lifestyle would be shocked to find out that we are actually working out our faith with trembling and fear. If we have no calling to be single (celibacy is a gift!), then the logical opposite is that we should seek someone, who, with us, before God, would form a union that would honour God.

So, I stand, with my brothers and sisters at St John’s, in a place where I have found both friendship and support for “people like me”, and friends, one particular friend who challenged my statement by standing wth me, so I could be free to move to the place where I should be.

In a way, my friend demonstrated Jesus coming to us, when he stood with me and didn’t take communion, was being Christ, who stood with us, coming to our place so that we can eventually get to where we should be in him.

It doesn’t mean it’s easy. It’s just good to have someone to metaphorically hold your hand.



  1. David says:

    I’m sorry.

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