Coming out Videos.

Posted: November 11, 2016 in Uncategorized

So I’ve been watching quite a lot of coming out videos. I find they actually help me hearing experiences that are very similar  to mine.

Some of them are literally “I came out, everyone was fine with it, in fact my best friend”(who is normally a girl), “screamed with delight, my parents hugged me and it was great”, right through to the poor souls who got rejected by their parents and sent for therapy, which didn’t work, or sometimes just cast out on to the street to fend for themselves.

When I hear this I know that religion and culture have caused this attitude in their parents, at that point they deny Christ by rejecting their own children. To be honest, if any of my friends came out and got thrown out I’d put them up if I could and help them.

I did see one where the parents kept the kid but made it clear about their disagreement with the child’s sexuality. I saw a LOT where the parents thought it was a phase and eventually realised that their son or daughter was actually not straight. The hardest part of being LGBT is to accept yourself.

The latter to me are the most interesting, I put myself through spiritual therapy. I tried everything to be straight including being married, obviously as Christians cannot have sex outside marriage I was a virgin when I married (with women), I thought that by being married, that very process would make me straight. I would “do the deed” and be straight. But it didn’t.

So those brave enough to come out in environments where they know the people will be hostile towards them do something interesting. They add weight to the theory that being LTBTI etc is not something that is a choice, it’s more of a realisation. A lot like when a straight person just starts wanting to be with girls, every one of them, the story is the same.

I realised I wasn’t like the other guys at school, because I was interested in one or two of the other guys in the same way they were interested in girls, (and one or two of them were interested in me but that’s another story) and this terrible secret I tried to pray and fast away, I cried myself to sleep, I attempted suicide and ended up in hospital. The theology so easily spouted from the pulpit created in me such a terrible conflict that I became incredibly homophobic towards myself. I lived two lives, I was in church on Sunday but meeting up with “people like me” during the week, in London. Kit, if you are out there I miss you.

I lived a huge lie before God and before myself because I thought that this would please God, somehow, that by not living in truth before him this would please him. I was wrong, actually he wants us to be honest and truthful.

Does it get better? Yes. But the journey is often incredibly painful for those involved. It would be much easier if people just accepted that some people are LGBTI and they need to work that through, instead of quoting random Bible verses, often out of context, it is much more helpful to ask the person themselves how they are going to work things through rather than be selfish about your own cultural beliefs. Remember Slavery was a cultural belief we have dropped, I can even prove from scripture that Christians can and should keep slaves. But we don’t do it. Why? Because we have moved on.

I will add, that all the Christians who quote Leviticus have never killed a gay person, or stoned someone for Adultery or sacrificed an Animal, they certainly don’t apply the verses in the law they break to themselves.

Christians on the whole pick and choose the verses they live by and then inflict verses on other people when they want to feel better about themselves. This is what judging others does, even if you think you are justified in your judgement, it makes you feel better about yourself. This is a lie, because eventually you think you’re so great that no one is as good as you, at that point, you are proud, which is sin, kaboom. Lord, it’s so hard to be humble, when I get better looking each day!.

Me, I just go with Love the Lord with your heart, soul, mind and strength, and love your neighbour as your self. Those two things will keep you very busy. When you meet an LGBT person think to yourself, what do I want? A relationship? Love? then let them have that love and relationship. You might not understand it. You might have been bought up to believe this person is going straight to Hell. But that’s not your problem, it’s God’s, and he just LOVES rainbows.



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