Archive for August, 2017

da71e9dd7c1b9138c9a4631e8924344d.pngThe Christian church has always been filled with differences of opinion on some amazing topics.

The truth of the matter is we have faith in God, we base our faith on a rough understanding of a book written over 2000 years.

So it’s just arrogant to expect to think that you are right about everything and even worse to start judging other Christians on their beliefs in the very same words you believe in a different way.

The truth is that EVERY Christian takes the bits of the Bible they like and majors on them. Christians use those scriptures to hate people like me. They feel better by using virtue positioning. Not realising that doing that disobeys even the most *BASIC* Christian Teaching of Love your Neighbour as yourself.

I reckon the way to treat scripture is like this:-

Love the Lord your God with all your heart soul mind and strength.

Love your neighbour as yourself.

If anything you do or say goes against this, guess what, you’re wrong. I’m not saying you’re wrong, the basic scripture is.

The truth is Christian, you love yourself like this.

  1. You do something wrong
  2. You let yourself off
  3. Go to 1

But with others its….

  1. They do something wrong
  2. You judge them which makes you feel better
  3. Go to 1

Sort it out, have you not read “Love covers over a multitude of Sins?”.

There you go.



When I was a young gay man, EVERYTHING was secret, my secret trips to Soho, my secret boyfriend, the fear I lived under was crippling, There were few dating websites let alone gay dating. How things have changed.

I mentioned to a young gay guy I know the other day that he had no idea what it was like for us back then. Young LGBT people don’t forget how much people have been through to get you the freedom (where there is freedom!) that you enjoy now.

I’ve learned through chatting with people (sadly nothing ever goes further than that), that there is a full spectrum of attraction.

  • Young gay guys who want to be with older gay guys. – I get contacted about 3 or 4 times a week by someone under 30 even though I’m upfront and clear with my age. I understand this happens in the straight world as well.
  • There are a lot of people who are “in the closet” and think that people who have fought to be free would be interested in a “quick fling”.
  • There is a fear with a lot of people on these sites that they are going to be trapped by someone finding out their true self and broadcasting it out there. I feel so blessed that I have been able to be myself. That is a terrible place.

Because Fear is crippling. A lot of older gay people can’t imagine what a relationship would look like. They have had to live in fear and the journey to being in a loving relationship with another person whatever their attraction is is something they simply can’t fathom.

I hope the younger people work that one out. I hope they find the love they are looking for.

I have also been thinking (this is a bit off topic, sorry) about how our journey relates to where we are now. Here’s what I mean, we have been oppressed, tortured, put to death, imprisoned, injected, treated, punched, kicked and made to feel rubbish by people for years. Straight people who think it’s their honest right to do so. Thinking they are doing God some kind of favour. So why are we pursuing straight relationship models? Should LGBTI people not discover our own relationship models rather than trying to hitch a ride with the marriage brigade. I have nothing against marriage, gay or straight, between whoever, but I do wonder wether we should let straight people just do their stuff and we work out our own relationship patterns.

But for now, I would just like to sit with a gay guy, cuddle up on the sofa and watch a film. But that, it seems, is too much to ask.