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This article (Click  Here) is a brave but incredibly sad account which describes in a way my experience as a gay man growing up in the 70’s.

I am one of those people who used religion to beat myself up. I remember when I was a teenager being besotted with Tucker Jenkins from Grange Hill (a TV program).  By the time I was in my 20’s I was homophobic, a friend of mine asked me once if I’d hire a gay person and I just quoted scripture at him. Scripture I had learned by rote but not really understood. Ofcourse Grange Hill had it’s own gay teacher.

I regret terribly how I forced myself to be straight even though I spent most of my life completely cut up inside. Deeply hating myself.

For anyone brought up to believe these things about themselves it is a huge journey to actually get yourself to the place where you understand just how much God loves you as you are. That being gay, bi or trans, is not some kind of condemnation but in many ways a blessing.

Being gay, you see, is not just about who you are attracted to, it’s about how you see the world. When you find someone you actually love, you’ll know it. Whatever gender they are.

When you are “out”, when you don’t hide who you are any more it’s like you are finally set free. You can finally, when out with friends, discuss “that guy on Hollyoaks“.

I did have relationships with people of the same sex growing up, from the age of about 15. But these were not  loving relationships they were relationships that happened in an environment of fear and shame.

I hope that in these modern times we can learn to live alongside each other.

I believe the glory of God is the human being fully alive and that this includes people who are gay.

If Ireland votes Yes, it will be about much more than marriage. It will end institutional homophobia. It will say to gay people that they belong, that it’s safe to surface and live fully human, loving lives. If it’s true that 10 per cent of any population are gay, then there could be 400,000 gay people out there; many of them still living in emotional prisons. Any of them could be your son, daughter, brother, sister, mother, father or best friend. Set them free. Allow them live full lives.

(Ursula Halligan)


Not something we NORMALLY hear about hear in the UK. You see the problem with theology that is spouted in front of people who you don’t know it affects, is while the onlookers look on and nod in approval, the LGBT person is secretly dying inside.

We must think more about the verse “What you did to the least of these, you did it to me”, Jesus talking in the parable of the sheep and the goats.

“But the Bible Says” is all very well. But the Bible says a lot of things. This Christmas, instead of putting ourselves and others down maybe it’s time to focus on building up and not destroying, on creating a safe environment for everyone.

The theology of hate perpetrated by so many Christians is not the teachings of Christ at all. He never once lifted a stone against anyone, or put them down, sure, he challenged people but his whole life he built people up.

Happy Christmas everyone!

Ok, some of you call it a Mall.

I saw something amazing today, something that scared me, that made me want to sing, I wanted to run up to them and hug them. Two guys were holding hands and walking  through the local Intu shopping centre.

I just sat there waiting for the kids like a lemon. I WANTED to run up and say guys this is so good to see. I WANTED to tell them my story and just say I’m so proud of them for being open about their love.

But I just sat there. Feeling a bit embarrassed and stupid.

I realised that the old Evangelical fears were running through me, I thought of when I’d been on dates and how we’d pretended to be a couple of guys out for a meal. I thought how I would want to be like them, without a care in the world but the love for each other.

I hope one day if I ever find someone, I’ll have the courage to do that too.


Well, here we are the 2nd day since it has been legal for  same sex couples to get married.

Now you may remember the collection of “Christians” claiming that the bad weather in the UK was due to gay marriage. Well perhaps their God just got the timing wrong? Because since it’s been legal the weather here has been just lovely.

Or perhaps, just perhaps the God they worship has different ideas ?

I also saw a protest by some people against marriage for same sex couples, I noticed however they seem to have stolen a photograph of “Matilda”. Isn’t theft a sin?

God 1 – Haters 0


The Jug.

Posted: March 25, 2014 in Christian Ethics
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Jesus in one of his frequent and mostly surprising visits observed a jug. It was made of glass, empty, chipped in odd places.

” Did you bring that?” I asked.

“No, he said, it’s yours, you’ve just not noticed it before”

“Why does it have a board on the top of it, so nothing can be put in?”

“Well”, Jesus said, with that warm ‘annoying’ smile, “that’s your Love Jug”.

“Oh! I said, it’s empty”

“Yes, said Jesus, and you are scared to let anyone fill it so you keep that board on top, the ‘personal space’ board, it serves you well, protecting you from pain”

“But….”, I said, half knowing what was coming,

“But… because you will not make yourself vulnerable, when I send people to you to show you love you cannot receive it, in fact, you don’t really receive my love, you’re so worried about conditions, about not being good enough, so worried you might get hurt”.

“Jesus, I know what you’re saying but if I remove that board then I will get hurt”,

“Maybe,”, he said, “But it’s better than feeling alone and empty isn’t it? Remember when I died for you, to show you the ultimate love I have for you, I had to become ultimately vulnerable, when you think of being ‘Christlike’, it’s not about obeying rules, or being a ‘Good Christian’, but about being vulnerable, because out of that vulnerability comes humility and strength”.

“It’s very risky”, I said, hoping he wouldn’t force me to take the board from the top of the Jug,

“Yes, but love and risk are intrinsically tied together, if you don’t want to feel so alone and empty, you have to become vulnerable, you have to receive pain and love equally, sometimes your jug will be broken, but a new, better one, will be made in it’s place”

“Do I have to take the board of now?”

“No,”, said Jesus, “it’s always your choice to be vulnerable, no one else’s, except sometimes bad things happen and the board is removed on it’s own, you become vulnerable because you can no longer be strong, you have a choice, you can live as a vulnerable receptive vessel of my love or carry on relying on your own strength, the problem is, when others need of the contents of your jug, there won’t be much there”.

“Jesus, it’s dangerous”


“Is it worth it?”


“I’m scared”

“There”, said Jesus, “that did it”

The board protecting me was gone, my fear made me vulnerable and Jesus love could flow into my jug

“You see”, he said wryly, “perfect love casts out all fear, your vulnerability opened the door for love to deal with fear”,

“I think I’ll just leave the board off for a while longer”, I said.


Many LGBT teenagers in the church feel that they are facing a bleak future. A group of young adult LGBT Christians have made a short “It Gets Better” film to tell their stories of coming out and finding a place within the church to try to give hope to younger people that it can be possible.

At the end of the film we would love to have 100 snapshots of clergy showing their support and stopping the teenagers who see this film from thinking that this is just a small group of naughty rebels.

If you are a recognised Christian clergy person who is supportive of their cause then please send us a photograph of yourself (portrait rather than landscape) in your clerical shirt, smiling and holding an A4 sheet of white paper with LARGE BOLD BLACK LETTERS saying “I support LGBT Christians”. Please it send to and forward this message to others who might be interested

The deadline for submissions is 22nd March 2014 but the sooner we get them in the better. Many thanks”

Perhaps we should change it to…

Jesus dealt with my Sin, let’s get on with loving one another…..:-)