Posts Tagged ‘God’

da71e9dd7c1b9138c9a4631e8924344d.pngThe Christian church has always been filled with differences of opinion on some amazing topics.

The truth of the matter is we have faith in God, we base our faith on a rough understanding of a book written over 2000 years.

So it’s just arrogant to expect to think that you are right about everything and even worse to start judging other Christians on their beliefs in the very same words you believe in a different way.

The truth is that EVERY Christian takes the bits of the Bible they like and majors on them. Christians use those scriptures to hate people like me. They feel better by using virtue positioning. Not realising that doing that disobeys even the most *BASIC* Christian Teaching of Love your Neighbour as yourself.

I reckon the way to treat scripture is like this:-

Love the Lord your God with all your heart soul mind and strength.

Love your neighbour as yourself.

If anything you do or say goes against this, guess what, you’re wrong. I’m not saying you’re wrong, the basic scripture is.

The truth is Christian, you love yourself like this.

  1. You do something wrong
  2. You let yourself off
  3. Go to 1

But with others its….

  1. They do something wrong
  2. You judge them which makes you feel better
  3. Go to 1

Sort it out, have you not read “Love covers over a multitude of Sins?”.

There you go.


Christ the Saviour (Pantokrator), a 6th-centur...

Christ the Saviour (Pantokrator), a 6th-century encaustic icon from Saint Catherine’s Monastery, Mount Sinai. NB – slightly cut down – for full size see here (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I have got the most wonderful friends. Some of whom, I guess, find me difficult to deal with at times, although they never say anything about it.

You know, some of my friends are always putting themselves down, I know why, because I’ve been there, self talking, is as bad at times as others being cruel. If you tell someone they are useless for long enough, they will agree and long after you are gone, their uselessness will become part of them. The old adage “Sticks and Stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me”, is just, completely, rubbish.

My friends will tell you I have a rule, I call it rule 468 paragraph 4 (just for fun), “Thou shalt not put thyself down”. Whenever I or one of my friends or family go to put themselves down I quote my rule. Because, I think, in the same way that words have sometimes destroyed lovely genuine people (you know who you are), words can turn things around.

Look, I might not know you, but I know about you, yes, I do, I know that you are “fearfully and wonderfully made”, God himself wants you as his child, do you know how much that cost?, it cost, himself.

So perhaps it’s time we employ the rule, “Thou shalt not put thyself down”, because, I realised that when I was putting myself down, I put others down as well. You cannot love others if you do not love yourself. I’m not talking about a huge ego trip, I’m talking about feeling happy about yourself and knowing that the people that put you down, frankly, are only putting themselves down and reflecting their own insecurities.

The journey out of depression starts by seeing a light of joy at the end of a very dark tunnel. This is often the tunnel where self talk has chained us down.

You’re great, you really are. Anyone tells you anything different, let me tell you something, they don’t know you, there is only one person who truly knows you and he said how great you are. “While we were still God’s enemy, Christ died for us”.

So lovely, valuable, precious readers, let’s change the programme and make this world a happier, better, place.


That is a bit of an oxymoron actually.

I was wondering around my email this morning when I came across this shocking report, “Christian” parents sending their children BY FORCE to a christian school so they can be made straight.

It’s barbaric and nothing to do with the Christian faith. The faith where there is “no Jew, Greek, Male or Female because we are all one in Christ”. Children and teens taken in the night to these places, it must be terrifying for the children. I know that the loving parents think they are doing the best for their children but they forget one immutable fact, you cannot change a persons sexual orientation, no amount of singing choruses, screaming Jesus Loves me at the top of your voice will do it.

The correct response is to allow the LGBT person to work through their faith with support and love.

This is there blog.

I grew up believing that you chose to be gay. Ofcourse, I wanted so much to obey God and I thought that God wanted me to be straight. But despite my best efforts I was unable to change my sexuality.

This is, an incredibly important question. Because by it’s nature it brings us to a point where we say, it is natural, I am naturally gay, you may be naturally straight, and my responsibility before God, and before you, is to live an honest, truthful life as I am.

If I meet someone who I love and want to be with, then I will live truthfully, and honestly, before God in that relationship.

The father seeks worshippers that worship him in spirit and in truth. Being in truth means being in the Light, Light shows up darkness, it bathes it, it pushes it away, darkness cannot fight it. So, this question is more about living in truth than making a life decision.


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I think for me this summarises what happens when God touches someone who is caught in the Evangelical mistake of making people into something they are not.

Jesus said that he sought worshippers that worship him in spirit and in truth. You can’t worship God in truth if, in fact, you are lying. Our sexuality is part of who we are and you  know, God can cope with it, he can cope with the fact that not all of us are straight, or comfortable with our gender identity. Because we are free to be ourselves before God, in his presence, because, that is how he sees us. As we are. Just as I am, without one plea.

As I reflect on the people who over the years tried to help me “be straight”, with advice that if I got married I would become straight, are sadly mistaken, but ofcourse, PaulK will tell you, this is their journey. Sadly I expect PaulK and myself share the regrets of not living our lives to the full before God because we were caught up in a strange kind of legalism that takes odd verses out of the Bible and creates a false theology.

A simple application of logic shows that you cannot expect everyone to conform to the straight sexuality model often put out by churches and other religions, some people are simply not straight.

I often had many unanswered questions as I grew up as a Christian. I didn’t understand why we ignored one part of the Bible, but majored on another like it was more important.

I hope that Paulk does manage to find a partner and not spend his life alone. Being alone is hard. I know why God said “it is not good for a man to be alone” in Genesis. But we all need the best helper for us.


An open letter to the Archbishop of Canterbury.

Firstly let me congratulate you on your appointment.

I was not surprised that the Church of England still does not recognise relationships that gay people have as relationships. I as an anglican who attends church every Sunday and does a lot of work for my local church, I “enjoy” an incredibly lonely life, your condemnation of me as a gay man being in any kind of relationship is a hard one to bear. Especially, as every weekend up and down the country the same church that condemns me to a life of loneliness, marry’s people and blesses people who are not even Christians, who do not attend church, and frankly have no clue where the book of Ezra is for instance in the Bible.

These people, who’s marriages you will bless because they are straight include, Pagans, Witches, the Divorced (didn’t Jesus have something to say about that. although I think actually he was making a different point to the one normally made?), in fact anyone who is in a heterosexual relationship, even if it is abusive receives the unmerited blessing from the Church of England.

Along with this hypocrisy  goes the ignoring of other commands from the Bible, women, as Paul said, should be silent in church, that eating shellfish is a terrible sin, and in fact, if you marry a women who is not a virgin she must be put to death. I think that putting people to death for sin has kind of been given up. I have, for instance not found one Christian who is keen to put me to death.

Arguments from history, as well leave a lot to be desired. Marriage has not always been between ONE man and ONE woman, take for instance quite a few of the Bible marriages, these included concubines, servants, polygamy, incest (Adam and Eve had two sons, who did they have sex with to produce more children?). Sir, I would remind you that our church was formed so Henry the 8th, hardly the best example for marriage, could get a divorce!.

If God was so concerned about marriage, why did he not even bother to give us a marriage service in the Bible? Surely he would have commanded it. Perhaps in fact, as Jesus said “You do not understand the power of God because there is no marriage in heaven” (Matthew 22:29). Marriage, is not a Christian institution it existed in many forms before the Council of Trent got a hold of it and made into a “Christian institution”, ofcourse, sir, then you could only have sex once a week.

You do only have sex once a week, don’t you?

Sir, you are a shepherd of a varied flock. I know that if you blessed people like me if we ever found someone to be with, you would lose a lot of money from the Africans especially. But sometimes, Sir, can I say there is a matter of conscience at stake and after all,  the love of money is the root of all evil.

As for me, if I do meet someone Sir, I will I hope attend church with  him and together we will serve God in whatever ways we can. Trusting in the blood and grace of Christ to cover us, as according to 2 Cor 5:21 he is our righteousness and hope.

I do understand Sir, that you have a difficult balancing act to do, and that sometimes you have to bear with the weaker brother as in the example of eating meat sacrificed to idols in the book of Romans. But please know that all over the world there are Anglican people, for whom you Sir, are the shepherd, who are lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender, who do not need rejection any longer, but acceptance and love, unconditionally, just as I hope you would seek to give to anyone who walks into the stately doors of any church building in the Anglican Communion.

May I suggest that the solution is to make a ruling that the decision to bless Gay marriages should be passed to the local churches. Thus you keep everyone happy. The local churches can then advertise if they would bless those who are of the LGBT persuasion. Then you can keep the Africans happy (you keep your money), and allow the LGBT community to be properly ministered to.

I do not take communion, I will not until Sir, the Church of England recognises me as a human being made equal by the sacrifice of Christ, upon whose death the curtain in the Temple was torn in two.

Your humble servant,