Posts Tagged ‘Love’

da71e9dd7c1b9138c9a4631e8924344d.pngThe Christian church has always been filled with differences of opinion on some amazing topics.

The truth of the matter is we have faith in God, we base our faith on a rough understanding of a book written over 2000 years.

So it’s just arrogant to expect to think that you are right about everything and even worse to start judging other Christians on their beliefs in the very same words you believe in a different way.

The truth is that EVERY Christian takes the bits of the Bible they like and majors on them. Christians use those scriptures to hate people like me. They feel better by using virtue positioning. Not realising that doing that disobeys even the most *BASIC* Christian Teaching of Love your Neighbour as yourself.

I reckon the way to treat scripture is like this:-

Love the Lord your God with all your heart soul mind and strength.

Love your neighbour as yourself.

If anything you do or say goes against this, guess what, you’re wrong. I’m not saying you’re wrong, the basic scripture is.

The truth is Christian, you love yourself like this.

  1. You do something wrong
  2. You let yourself off
  3. Go to 1

But with others its….

  1. They do something wrong
  2. You judge them which makes you feel better
  3. Go to 1

Sort it out, have you not read “Love covers over a multitude of Sins?”.

There you go.



The Jug.

Posted: March 25, 2014 in Christian Ethics
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Jesus in one of his frequent and mostly surprising visits observed a jug. It was made of glass, empty, chipped in odd places.

” Did you bring that?” I asked.

“No, he said, it’s yours, you’ve just not noticed it before”

“Why does it have a board on the top of it, so nothing can be put in?”

“Well”, Jesus said, with that warm ‘annoying’ smile, “that’s your Love Jug”.

“Oh! I said, it’s empty”

“Yes, said Jesus, and you are scared to let anyone fill it so you keep that board on top, the ‘personal space’ board, it serves you well, protecting you from pain”

“But….”, I said, half knowing what was coming,

“But… because you will not make yourself vulnerable, when I send people to you to show you love you cannot receive it, in fact, you don’t really receive my love, you’re so worried about conditions, about not being good enough, so worried you might get hurt”.

“Jesus, I know what you’re saying but if I remove that board then I will get hurt”,

“Maybe,”, he said, “But it’s better than feeling alone and empty isn’t it? Remember when I died for you, to show you the ultimate love I have for you, I had to become ultimately vulnerable, when you think of being ‘Christlike’, it’s not about obeying rules, or being a ‘Good Christian’, but about being vulnerable, because out of that vulnerability comes humility and strength”.

“It’s very risky”, I said, hoping he wouldn’t force me to take the board from the top of the Jug,

“Yes, but love and risk are intrinsically tied together, if you don’t want to feel so alone and empty, you have to become vulnerable, you have to receive pain and love equally, sometimes your jug will be broken, but a new, better one, will be made in it’s place”

“Do I have to take the board of now?”

“No,”, said Jesus, “it’s always your choice to be vulnerable, no one else’s, except sometimes bad things happen and the board is removed on it’s own, you become vulnerable because you can no longer be strong, you have a choice, you can live as a vulnerable receptive vessel of my love or carry on relying on your own strength, the problem is, when others need of the contents of your jug, there won’t be much there”.

“Jesus, it’s dangerous”


“Is it worth it?”


“I’m scared”

“There”, said Jesus, “that did it”

The board protecting me was gone, my fear made me vulnerable and Jesus love could flow into my jug

“You see”, he said wryly, “perfect love casts out all fear, your vulnerability opened the door for love to deal with fear”,

“I think I’ll just leave the board off for a while longer”, I said.


God’s Love and Ours

7Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. 8Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. 9This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. 10This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. 11Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 12No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us. 13This is how we know that we live in him and he in us: He has given us of his Spirit. 14And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world. 15If anyone acknowledges that Jesus is the Son of God, God lives in them and they in God. 16And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. 17This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. 18There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. 19We love because he first loved us. 20Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen.21And he has given us this command: Anyone who loves God must also love their brother and sister. (NIV)

My Facebook friend Eddie Chriswell, posted a portion of this text and I was just so inspired to write.  In this passage of scripture, Love is laid out in bare bones, demanding fashion, it shows how taking odd verses and clobbering people is actually anti-God, anti-Jesus and nothing to do with faith. It condemns anyone who does not love his brother or sister, it challenges me when I find it hard to show love to certain people. It demands a higher high of us, it demands us to lavish each other with a sacrificial love.

Christianity is a license to love, but so many turn it into a license to hate. It’s not only a license to love, it is nothing but a command. There is no law against Love.

Want to find out what God is like?, try showing love to everyone, regardless of how they hurt you, or you find them difficult, it’s a challenge, a higher high.

Thanks Eddie. 🙂

I have this pink paperclip in my wallet.

A good friend of mine gave it to me and ever since I’ve used it as a reminder to think about and indeed pray for those who are LGBT for whom the freedom to live their life as the person they really are is not possible. Also for those who have committed suicide because of their sexualty and their families coming to terms with it. For those for whom being LGBT is just hard. Bullied or hated.

Every time I see a person who has been executed, bullied or committed suicide in this way, I wear this paperclip on my shirt as a reminder to me to pray for them. People ask why and I tell them.

I’m not saying that you should do the same as me. But you know sometimes something simple can carry a huge message.

I hope, one day, this paperclip will stay in my wallet and not come out. But until then. Here it is.  

I’m watching a documentary on BBC3 tonight called Jamie Drag Queen at 16.

He’s an out, gay 16 year old who wants to be a drag queen. I found it incredibly moving, the guy is very brave. He’s going to dress in his drag to his school prom. His desire to show people who he really is overcomes his need to be accepted. That, to me is brave.

He, like a lot of guys who are cross dressers/trans people, although he doesn’t want to become a woman, started dressing up as a child he’s a guy when he’s not in drag. His secret prom plans to go in drag were put to play hen his teacher found out and he was called “disgusting” by his school. He said “how is it people can discriminate against gay people and cross dressers”, ” they don’t even understand, they are not even giving me the chance to help them understand”.

“I just want his acceptance, it’s all I want” he said about his Father. The truth is, all of us want to be accepted as we are, we want to be ourselves, without others judging us. Treat others with the love that you want, remember some of us even fear what you are going to say. I for instance don’t go to some church events because I don’t think I’ll be accepted. Normally, happily, I think I’m wrong.

Jamie found the same, his awesome friends who said we’re not going in unless he did. His dad, is sadly a different story in the end. Jamie, if I was there I would be your dad, because I don’t know about every one else but you made me really proud. Good for you. Jamie’s mum you are awesome, I remember a friend of mine who is a cross dresser coming out to his mum, there was an awkward silence, then she said “oh well, have to go shopping then”. That sort of acceptance and love makes us strong.

We should all think what we would say to this guy. Or to someone who is different from ourselves, whoever they are. Or better, what would Jesus say? “I love you but” or just “I love you, follow me”, remember, this world is powered by differences, and this guy, is an example of a strong, beautiful person.

Jamies page on Face book is Here , you can watch him in action Here

Sunday at a new church

Posted: June 24, 2011 in Uncategorized
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I have found the most wonderful, accepting, non-judgemental church.

Went on Sunday with my two kids who had a great time. My youngest was pretty worried she’d not found a new friend yet after 1/2 hour, but that was soon rectified and she was holding hands with a little girl called Millie.

I’m in the band already which is great. They all know I’m gay. I was really upfront about it.

There is a lovely lady there who asked people questions like “are you gay?” she asked someone who said no, and I looked up, “Oh”, she said, “I’ve offended someone”, “no”, I replied, “I’m gay”, she nearly died of shock, the vicar burst into fits of laughter followed by most of the small congregation. I don’t think she ever expected anyone to say yes! We’ve become great friends!

Upon returning home we asked the kids which church they wanted to go to, my oldest said “Oh St John’s, because they really care about Daddy”. Says it all doesn’t’ it.

That’s how powerful unconditional acceptance is.